As a disclaimer, I know most families use YouTube in their homes. This post is not meant to tell you you’re doing it wrong, because there are 3 ways to slice an onion. But I want to share why we rarely use YouTube in our home (we have two kids ages 3 and 6), including one reason that may be less top of mind for parents.

To start, when do we use allow YouTube in our house?

Typically, it’s when we are using it for a purpose. For example, dancing to Danny Go videos. Or we read about an animal in a book and want watch a video about that animal. We’ve also used it for tutorials for Rainbow Loom, other crafts, and drawing.

When YouTube is used:

• It’s on the TV screen in a common area, or

• If they’re using the tablet independently, we’re around and it’s used in a common area

We avoid using headphones, so it’s less isolating for them and we can easily hear what they’re consuming, ie not getting ‘click happy’ while watching a tutorial.

So, why don’t we allow YouTube more liberally?

Here’s the most obvious reason (and I’ll refer to my 6 year old because our 3 year old has never watched it solo): it’s too engaging. Here’s an example- If I were to leave my son with the iPad to pick a drawing tutorial, he would just scroll and scroll, and have a really hard time picking a video. He gets too immersed in the sheer number of videos available… click, click, click. “No, not this one. Wait, what about this one?” It’s like I can see the dopamine exploding out the top of his head.

We’ve never really given him the opportunity to passively consume, but I can imagine he’d have a very hard time detaching if he did.

Then of course there is the potential to run into inappropriate content, but we haven’t really experienced that just because he doesn’t use it independently.

But here’s a less obvious reason: Platforms like YouTube are making kids want for more than they need. In the past, we used to let our son play random games on the iPad (we still do very, VERY occasionally ie on a plane or during illness). But every time he plays, he is bombarded by an ad for another game, which he promptly begs us for. Videos are interrupted by ads promoting a desire for things children would otherwise not know existed.

I recently started reading Who’s Raising The Kids by Susan Linn. Linn is a renowned author, psychologist and advocate for a commercial-free childhood. In her book she says,

“Children in a hyper-commercialized culture are continuously sold the belief that the things we buy will bring us happiness… research suggests that children with more materialistic values are less happy than their acquisitive peers.”

Now you may be saying, “But Alison, you can upgrade to premium and there are no ads!”

But here’s the other thing- this isn’t exactly true. On YouTube, kids are the ads. Child YouTubers have been commodified, marketing for brands through their unboxing videos, try-on hauls, and “get ready with me” skincare and makeup tutorials. The videos are the ads.

Many child-oriented channels feature young influencers who often act as brand ambassadors for various products. These influencers may present themselves as role models, while their content may also be subtly (or overtly) pushing merchandise or services. This can lead kids to equate personal value with consumerism, especially if they look up to these influencers.

It’s almost impossible to avoid. And young children are impressionable. They want to have the products they see, and they want to be like the kids they see. My kids already beg me for enough random items at the grocery store, I can’t imagine what would happen if they were exposed to algorithmically generated content on YouTube!

I suppose we we could curate the channels he watches to try to avoid these types of videos. But it still brings me back to the ‘too engaging’ rationale.

As they grow and we are better able to talk to them about consumerism and algorithms in a way they will understand, my stance may change. But for now, I don’t think they are missing out on anything by not being able to passively consume.

Would love to hear your thoughts!

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